Mostly every Western gentleman dating Russian women is asking the same question: – “Why are so many Russian girls searching for men outside the former CIS countries?” The economic component of life is very important for every modern family; Russia and Ukraine just prove the rule. Attitude towards Russian women from their Russian men has changed recently. Here we are giving direct women’s stories about money ruining force of their families and affairs with their men.
“I have divorced with my husband. He moved to another city. Later we tried to restore our affairs. My former tried to join me but he was not sure if he would manage to find a job in my city. I was in search of a baby-sitter for our little son and my husband offered himself for that vacancy. I asked him: – “For money?” “Yes, You would pay for that anyway, but I need money and to pay to my daughter from my first marriage” – suggested he. Such beautiful perspective to pay to my husband for sitting with my son turned to me as wild and humiliating. I decided not to restore our relations. I found a baby-sitter and in one year I married another man.”
Nastya, 31 y.o Economist
“Before, I thought that money in women-men affairs is not an important question. One of my last men was a doctor who I met on the conference and fell in love with him but our affairs moved slowly. Once I was on my holiday at the sea hotel. I called him and invited him because I’ve got an opportunity to settle him for free in that hotel. My beloved arrived with one field flower and said that he didn’t buy champagne because he thought that I had it in my room. I didn’t pay attention to that fact cause my love made me blind. We met again several times in another city – everything was by the same scenario. Last drop happened when he called me and asked to pick him up at the airport upon his arrival from Milan and bring him to railway station because he has to live for another city. I refused and invited him to come to me and help me to paint the walls because I was making repair works inside my apartment. Nobody arrived that day – my romance was over. I think that it doesn’t matter how much money people gain – it should be enough to satisfy needs of both.”
Kate, 30y.o. Doctor
“I do not understand how a Russian woman can be dependent on men’s money. I’m not a keeper of the oven, so nothing to pay for me. I do not have a lot of money to keep my man. Just note that I didn’t say a word about love. I think that money and love are different notions. We should love each other without money – just for beautiful eyes”.
Alexandra 28y.o. Designer
“If a man earns less money he should have more additional responsibilities. In affairs it is very important to have exchange: you give to me and I give to you. I think this is the right pattern for normal affairs”
Helen, 32y.o. Accountant
“It is very important for me how a man spends his money. One of my colleagues was very funny, easy going man who always was attentive to all ladies inside our company. Once we took a taxi together after a company party, our apartments were close, but he left earlier and gave me a half of drive fee. Logically it was ok but it was not a gentlemen’s behavior, as for me. A clever man spends his money on kids, family, parents, etc. I do not care how much he gets but it is very important to know that when I need money I can receive it from him”.
Larisa, 25y.o. Architect
“I was born in a family with old traditions: my grandfather and my father always supplied the family. We had no discussions about who is supplying family with the money – only men. My grandmother and my mother earned quite good money and they always were free how to spend money. Man’s financial condition is just like a reflection of his wit: clever man will never live in poverty and find out the way how to make money. I’m not saying about millions – I’m just saying about man’s responsibility to make life convenient for his family. When your girlfriend id swimming in the Mediterranean Sea and you hardly can make a living, very soon jealousy will start eating you from inside. It is killing you softly when your kids are suffering from this. I’m sure that normal man will never let you suffer financially”.
Lida 26, y.o. Manager
“Mom of my school girl friend liked to say that love stops when there is no money for bread. We didn’t agree with that but in my life I tested the bitter taste of those words. I got married and got a kid and left my job for some time and it turned out that I left my family without income. My husband didn’t manage to support the family. Money disappeared for a long time. Constant quarrels brought us to divorce”.
Maria, 35y.o. Teacher
“Love is a sacred gift that money has nothing to do with”
Tanya,23y.o. Paparazzi
“If money is the base of affairs we may forget about love. My husband always made good money and very often he was on business trips. I forgave him even his short love adventures but one day he decided to move out from me to some other lady forever. Certainly I was very disappointed and one of my girlfriends tried to cheer me up by saying that he would come back when his money were over. Why do I need a man without money?!”
Vera,38,y.o. Manager
“I was very naive when thought that to supply family it should be blood of every man. My husband is a creative person and was not ready to supply the family. Long talks and discussions changed the situation to better but a lot of work is ahead. I absolutely agree that happiness it is not about the money, it is quantity of them that should cover not only current expenses but also holidays for your soul”.
Svetlana,33.y.o. Painter
“When I put myself in a man’s place I wonder why the hell in the world he has to pay a Russian girl just because the nature gave her opportunity to give birth. It is not fair! But if a man wants to be the father of the family he should buy those vacancies”.
Lyudmila, 26 y.o. Interpreter
“One day my husband lost his job and it lasted for two months. We had a just born kid and the whole family lived for money that state gave as after birth help. I understood that my man was in constant search for job, so I didn’t blame him because he didn’t spend the last money on beer. He suffered from this situation very much. But if he behaved another way or stayed out of job longer – I would kick him out”.
Laura, 26y.o. Lawyer
“I hate mercantile Russian girls! Once my son got back from a date with his girl and said that his girl left him because she asked for an expensive fur coat. Certainly, my son was not able to buy it for her. She said that one “daddy” will buy it for her easily. I explained to my son that he shouldn’t regret – that was a wrong choice. The ugliest thing is that consuming nature of modern girls becomes the norm of behavior. Everything is measured with money – very pity”.
Nadya, 52y.o. Housewife
“I had men with different level of income. One was a director with income 100 000 USD a year, another was a marketing manager, the 3rd had situational income but everybody paid for my coffee, taxi and travel. I never asked for anything from them but they did that way themselves. I always tried to pay but they refused to take my contribution. Money is a very good test for men I think.”
Kate 30 y.o. Owner of Company
“Even the strongest feelings will be killed in discussions about how to buy cheese or meat. If no one of the partners has money, they won’t live happily for a long time. Someone will leave for sure and I think that this will be the woman”.
Yana 25 y.o. Advertisement Manager
“Just a couple of years ago I would answer that money should bring to the family that partner who was able to do that better. Today I’d like to add one more condition: If your partner is doing everything possible to earn money too. I also would like to advise my daughter to find a man who can be financially independent or willing to be.”
Masha 42 y.o. Salesperson
“It is me who is responsible for getting money inside my family. If there is no money for food I try to loan some money from my friends. My man has no job now. It happened that world’s crises kicked him out of labor market, plus his not young of age was also not a helping factor. I’ll be patient till I have something to eat.”
Lyoubov 50 y.o.
P.S. Eighty five percent of Russian women are sure that their men can earn more money.